hey girls.
i know most of you don't really post much on this sight, but i'm hoping that you're still checking it a little. we just found out our 2nd attempt at ivf failed like the 1st one did. we are officially done with ivf for now and are moving to adoption. we would LOVE some tips, pointers, and advice as to where and how to begin the process. i think we're set on lds family services...but are open to stories about other agencies. thanks so much.
ash
Sunday, November 29, 2009
.need help.
Posted by {owens} at 4:05 PM
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Oh my gosh Ashley. I am so sorry. Words cannot express the hurt I feel for this unfair, painful situation. I only hope that you will feel of everyone's (and Heavenly Father's) love for you and your husband as you endure this.
Ashley, SO sorry to hear about another failed IVF. I can not imagine what you are feeling right now. Just always know no matter what ther is always HOPE!!! You just never know what Heavenly Father has in store for you. If you were to tell me a year ago this time that we would have a 6 month old baby girl I would have told you you were CRAZY!!! Now here we are with a sweet baby girl to share the Holidays with. Hold on just a little longer your story will have a happy ending too. I would love to invite you to view my personal blog. It has our whole failed IVF and adoption story on there. Leave me your email if you would like me to send you an invite. I hope that others will share their stories as well. I am so glad you posted because you need all the love and support you can get right now. No one should have to got through this alone. You are in my thought and prayers. Hang in there and keep us posted on how things are going.
Love, Kim
Oh Ash I forgot to tell you. My cousin, who is an adoptive mom and also my hair stylist, works at a salon with another stylist who has had amazing experiences with A Guardian Angel adoption agency. They're a bit more money than LDS, but they almost always have more birth mothers than families to be matched with. I don't think she ever had to wait more than 3 months to get her babies. Hope this helps.
I follow this blog, but have never commented...until now. I'm sorry that it did not work out. I can't imagine the frustrations you must be feeling. We never tried IVF because my uterus is in bad shape, but I do know how much infertility hurts. We just adopted the most beautiful baby boy 4 weeks ago through LDS Family Services. We were approved Feb 27, 2009 and our sweet birth mom picked us in April. We had a great time getting to know her. LDSFS was a great agency to go through in our opinion. We loved our case worker and you can't beat the pricing. I have so much more to say, but this is getting too long. Email me at mikeandkira@yahoo.com with your email address and I can send you an invite to my blog if you would like. And I can email you more about tips with adoption and how to get started, as well as bonding and how amazing the whole experience is. It seems like such a process, but we got approved in less than 2 months, it can be done!
Kira
Ashley, I'm Kim's sister-in-law's, sister-in-law (if that makes any sense!) I work for A Guardian Angel Adoptions, and have for the past 4 years. They are amazing. If you want to adopt through them go to their website: aguardianangel.net and click on "Download Adoptive Family packet." That will start the process for you. Once you get all the paperwork and documentation turned in, a social worker, like me will come do your homestudy. When that's all completed you will be ready to adopt! Easy Peasy!
Good luck!
Ash- my heart just dropped when I saw your post. I'm so sorry about your second failed IVF. It was gut wrenching for me to hear and I bet a million times worse to experience.
We adopted our little girl through LDSFS about two years ago. Best thing that ever happened to us. We started paperwork in July 2006, were approved Jan 2007, had a loooong match that resulted in the birth of our daughter that October. We witnessed many miracles during that time and know she was meant for our family. We have an open adoption and it's turned out great.
I think overall our experience with LDSFS was good, but we did have some serious rough patches along the way. Just realize the caseworkers are heavily overworked and underpaid and that until your in a "matched" situation you are not necessarily a priority for them. That's how we kind of felt anyway. I've also heard great things about A Guardian Angel, and Heart to Heart in Utah as well as A New Beginning that is based out of Boise, ID. Parent profiles can be a great resource also. All in all, Heavenly Father knows where your child is so that is your best resource.
I guess my three biggest tips are #1 invest in a high quality photographer for some of your profile pictures. You want to include a bunch of candids in your profile as well as your snapshots. But I think it really helps to have a couple of high quality photos from a photographer that knows what he/she is doing. #2. Research open adoption as much as possible. It's not for everyone, but we noticed through most of our contacts prior to our DD was that was what most birthmoms were wanting in some form or other. We love our DD's birthmom so much and it worked out really well for us.
#3 Be careful about any situations that come up if the birthfather isn't supportive of the birthmom's adoptive choice. We ended up in a messy contested adoption two weeks after our DD was born and it was HORRID. It makes my dealings with infertility seem like a cakewalk. We were very blessed that things worked out for us, but it's not always the case. So just be careful with that, we never expected to be in that situation either.
Keep us updated with what's going on and with what direction you decide to go. (hugs)
I'm so sorry! I just wanted to say I agree with Kim. Hold on and your story will have a happy ending. We have two wonderful boys from LDFS and although our second time through was full of ups and downs our little Cade is so worth it! Just remember it will all be worth it and you'll aprreciate them all the more!
So sorry to hear it! One failed IVF was rough for me...so I can't imagine your sorrow with another! My heart goes out to you! We're currently waiting to adopt through Heart & Soul Adoptions in Utah. Since we already have an adopted African American daughter, we wanted to be sure to adopt another child of a different race. They specialize in AA adoptions. We have loved the experience so far (much more than our last adoption)! I'd love to give any more of my experiences! Adoption is such a miracle and so worth all the work & worry! :)
I have know dr. Andrew since he was doing his residency. Larry has always been professional, kind, thoughtful and a deceit human being. I know beyond a shadow of a doubt he would never do anything that was not ethical, upstanding and professional.
Karen Hanson
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