Tuesday, September 22, 2009

.i guess i'm the only one here.

well, i guess i'll just keep getting up on this soap box... and everyone can listen.. today was, by far, the worst day of my life. (sort of an exaggeration) but my dr. just called and told me that ZERO of our eggs fertilized. they believe it is an enzyme/receptor problem in which we will need icsi for. if that even works at all. dr richards doesn't have icsi here because they like to keep the costs down and not purchase the big equiptment.

anyway, this $9500 is down the toilet, and if we want to try again we'll have to travel to LA to have icsi done.

i'm just sad.

8 comments:

Rachel Doyle said...

I am so sorry to hear that you received such bad news today. I wish I had something great or fantastic to say - but I don't. I do hope that you find some peace in your decisions etc.

Anonymous said...

My heart hurts for you. BAD. I can't imagine what you must truly be feeling, but I am sure it full of heartache, questions, and maybe a dab of depression. I am so sorry this didn't turn out. It kills me. I hope something wonderful may happen in your life soon, even if it's not what you're planning on. You're in my prayers.

Shannon said...

remind me where you live because i had icsi done (my dr. can no longer practice) and i swear kim had it done in the clinic that is in the draper area. are you in utah? i'm sorry that you had to go through that. it is good that you were able to narrow down more issues and know what you need to make this happen. to tell you the truth i would never do an ivf without icsi. if they can fertilize it for you why not get one step closer? if you live it utah you should find out where kim went if you are thinking of trying it again. good luck in your journey. i pray you will be able to have a baby come to your family soon.

Hillary said...

I just e-mailed you, but I wanted to tell you again how sorry I am. I totally understand why you wouldn't have done ICSI when it would've required more money and trip to California, and your doctor didn't even recommend it since your husband's SA was perfect. Plus, ICSI is by no means a guarantee that the cycle will work or that fertilized eggs will mean you'll get pregnant--just look at us!

This just sucks and you're completely entitled to your sadness and frustration. I hope you'll find some comfort in your support system--friends, family, and your infertile sisters on this blog.

Jon & Kim said...

This just SUCKS!!! Sorry but there is no other words. It is so hard to understand why IVF is not working for so many of us????? Right now all I can tell you is to feel how ever you want to feel. I let myself be angry, sad, frustrated and most of all heartbroken!!! It is okay to grieve for as long as you need to. Just remember your miracle will happen!!! And after all the sadness you will feel hope again. Just take your time.

Much Love,
Kim

Tamara ViAnn said...

I'm sorry I haven't posted sooner. My heart just absolutly dropped when I saw your post. Saying this seems so empty, but I am just so sorry. So very sorry. Take all the time you need to grieve and to mourn. I have to agree with Kim that miracles are in your future and to hold onto that hope of brighter days and happiness.

Hugs,
Tamara

Beck said...

As in Dr. Richards down in American Fork? Because I thought that the U of U did ICSI...

So, so sorry about the bad news. Sending prayers your way.

The Pollards said...

Sorry to jump on your board, but the U of U and the reproductive doctors at St. Marks both do ICSI. My sister in law did ICSI with the doctors at St. Marks (fertilitydr.com) and was successful even though husbands sperm score was a zero. I would strongly research the U of U however because in all my infertility battles they have succeeded in every department. Sorry to hijack.