i am wondering if you all have some good advice (say a top 10 list) of how to BLOW OFF STEAM!!! the stress of infertility, failed placements, raising adopted kids, and finally the drama of birth parents (I have a new one ... a birth father who decided he wants to be a part of my child's life after 3 years of NOTHING ... WHAT THE HELL!!!) and so on ...
i would love to hear your FAVORITES for letting it out and letting it go (and I am trying really hard to avoid destructive options - like eating or swearing or ... or ... so remember we are responsible adults now. I know - totally bummer!)
My FAVS
1. DANCING - does anyone want to go clubing? are we too old for that??
2. THROW something (jason might prefer BURNING something)
3. LAUGHING HYSTERICALLY
thanks for the help. lots of love - addie
Wednesday, January 14, 2009
WAYS TO BLOW OFF STEAM!!
Posted by Addie at 2:35 PM
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Addie dang it I am so sorry byut my fav thing to do is go shopping it helps me feel better. But really any time you want to go dancing let me know(but I am sure I am getting to old for that I am pushing 30)
Okay, so I would NOT recommend clubbing if you haven't been dancing in a while and you're over 30- believe me, the pain you're in makes you want to just stay in bed for a few days- which is impossible with little ones. UGH! ;)
On a serious note, though, you might want to find a good counselor to talk through everything. Mine is amazing and has helped me with some tough issues that have come up with our open adoption.
That's right, ladies! It's totally fine to "get professional help" and I openly admit to needing it! ;)
Addie,
Pretty much every month I end up in a wretched, frustrated mood. So, to make myself feel better, we go out to eat at any restaurant I want, and then I get to shop for something completely unrelated to babies--like decorations for our house or clothes or shoes (even if it's just window shopping). We've gone on a lot of trips, even quick/inexpensive ones, especially over depressing holidays like Mother's Day and Father's Day. I've definitely had a good pillow-soaking cry too, and punched/kicked/thrown my pillow. I also think it's funny to just fantasy-shop for new houses, new cars, dream vacations, etc. I'm the type of person who needs to let it out and then have something else to focus on.
Hope this helps! Hang in there!
Love,
Hillary
I too go SHOPPING. But given our current financial situation I can't shop like I want to. But even buying a pair of earrings helps. I also make myself find something to do. Something I have put off. Like organizing my basement. It took hours to do and I felt good when it was done. A project is a good thing to dive into when you are depressed or frustrated. It takes your focus away from the problem and usually can be done with little or no money and in the comfort of your sweats and a ponytail!
hey peeps, i found this great outsourcing website...hope it may be of help/interest to some:
http://ldsadoptioncouples.blogspot.com/
I would love to be a contributor. I have been looking for something like this to help me and I definitely need it right now. my email is saraerob@gmail.com and my name is sara roberts
I have an extra pair of tap shoes in size 8. Nothing like flopping and flailing about hysterically on the kitchen counter to get it all out.
Also - Chocolate. I mean really, if I'm not going gain weight getting pregnant, I might as well find another, possibly more satisfying route to the chub!
I hope you keep positive, and know that we're all here for you!
Addie, we would be happy to watch your boys if you need to go out with Jason. Just let us know. I really can't believe the birth father is showing up now after 3 years. He has a lot of NERVE!!! If we can help in any way please let us know. We loved seeing you two and it is our turn to have to come over.
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