Okay I just want to thank Kim for having this wonderful idea. So a little bit about me I have been married for 10years this december and have spent at least 7 years of it struggling with infertility. The first year we didnt really try and then the second year we started trying but I didnt get pregnant right away so about 6 months later I went to a docotor and he said they dont really do anything tell you have been trying for a year. So I waited the year a still no baby so I went back to the docotor and he refered me to a great OBGYN (who was the best). We tired all sorts of things. And then one day I wasnt feeling very good(just a cold bug)so I went to just a regular docotor but I didnt want any kind of medicine that would effect anything from trying to concieve and the docotors comment was he didnt understand why I would want a child so bad and go through all this stuff I was only 22years old. I was so mad and went home and cried thanks to my great husband who knows how to calm me down we knew we were doing the right thing a few months later I was pregnant so I do have one awesome little boy who is 5 years old and I can for sure tell you he is a blessing and for sure was meant for our family and 100% is just like his dad and I know I should be thankful for him but I feel he needs to know what it is like to have sibilings and I just dont fill like my life is complete with only one child. If this makes sense i fill like I am missing something. So after he turned 2 we started to try for another kid and my docotor at the time didnt think we would have any problems but needless to say 3 years later and still no child. So me and my husband have been through a lot we have tired harder for a second baby then we ever did the first one and these last few years have been crazy. What makes me the craziest is that they put you on all these hormone drugs and then tell you that you need to loose some weight because that would help your chances (really quit making me take drugs that are making me fat) So about a year and a half ago I went to a docotor and she said I had PCOS and I had heard a few other docotors say something along those lines to me so I this time I asked all the questions and wanted to know exactly what I have. So it isnt impossible for us to have another baby but with lots of prays and research we have chosen to take the path of adoption. Which I am very nervous about. Just sharing this info is hard for me I have had a very hard time with this trial you might say. I have felt every emotion out there but one thing I have learned I do feel better when I talk to others so many people actually know my pain some people have been through worse than me and I do feel awful for them. And I have learned this is not my plan it is the lords plan so I am starting to finally get it all. So me and my husband will start the adoption classes at the end of July so wish us luck I have heard so heartbreaking stories and honestly I just dont know how much more I can take ,but I have gained such a strong testimony of adoption and feel that this what we are meant to do at this time. And sorry if it felt like i went on and on I know I did but I feel much better today now thanks for letting me share. And if you have any advice please let me know.
Monday, June 30, 2008
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Thanks for your post! Adoption is an incredible journey and though it is still quite the roller coaster ride, it is certainly worth it. Just as women who have had the chance to become pregnant feel that it is a life changing event, we adoptive parents have strong convictions about our path. Good luck with your upcoming adoption classes.
(Oh, and if you do have PCOS, it makes it incredibly challenging to maintain a lower weight due to the encompassing endocrine involvement, and then topping it off with all of the hormones! Yikes... a gal doesn't stand a chance!)
I am glad that you are putting your self out there!!! That is my advice to you and anyone else who finds themselves in our "fun" predicament of trying to have a family. Talking to others who know how you feel (at least it dose for me) will make a world of difference. I have done it both ways, not talking to anybody and keeping it a secret, and talking to those around me who have gone through it. Adoption has been an incredible journey that has had many ups and downs, but our girls are the greatest blessings we could ever ask for and I am so glad that we were chosen to be their parents not only by their birth mother's but also by our Heavenly Father.
You know I have PCOS as well and it is so challenging to keep under control. Especially the weight! I gained 30 lbs in a few months on fertility drugs. Now I have to really work hard with diet and exercise to keep my weight down. A lot of doctors put you on BC but that doesn't help our situation with wanting kids. I have done tons of research on this and unfortunatly there are no answeres. I am sure it is so hard the older Mason gets. I am sure your heart aches for not only you and Gabe but for Mason as well. We love you and we are here for you. Adoption is amazing and even though it is scary to think about you will find you are more capable of handling the situation than you think. There are things I thought I could never do...like going to the birth grandparents house to celebrate Jakes birthday. But it will all feel so comfortable, like it is meant to be. Hang in there and know that we are here to listen. You will feel more comfortable after the classes. You will even meet more people in your same situation. Spread the word about our blog. Love ya!
-Kim
Thanks for sharing your story. For me, finally writing and sharing about the trials my husband and I were experiencing was (and still is) so cathartic. I'm sure that I ramble, and I try not to do that so others can read what I write more easily, but the important thing to remember is that sharing is really for you. I've met so many wonderful people through blogging about our infertility, but the greatest blessing I've received so far is the wonderful peace that comes after I've gotten my feelings out in words. Keep sharing! :)
I have read through most of your posts on this wonderful site. I am so grateful to find others who are going through so of the same issues my husband and I have been dealing with. My husband and I have been married 9 years and we finally feel like we are ready to start the process of adoption/other fertility treatments. Thanks for putting together this wonderful group to help other out there, who feel alone.
I forgot to mention that you could contact me anytime at sjadixie@hotmail.com or justthe2ofusavery.blogspot.com
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